This is ‘the’ number one question, at every stage show, from parents at odds with how to support, empower, yet protect, their very perceptive children.
There is now more than ever before, greater openness to embrace and encourage children’s expanded communication, ending a generation where children were seen and not heard.
The acceptance of a heightened level of awareness, perception, a concept of the 6th sense, less of an oddity to be discouraged when the phase doesnt go away.
As a parent of three very perceptive kiddies, they are no longer the exception.
One of the keys to managing any behaviors in the our children, our next generation, is to provide some form of structure. Some framework, with which they can make decisions to ensure they are the best that they can be with the best opportunities. They can contribute, experience, empower and love.
We all know it begins with guidance from, and protection of parents.
How do they deal with a child who knows more then they should, talks of previous lives, previous families, and see relatives who have already passed, and many that they never met.
Parents who realize or still question, if it is a phase. They want to encourage their child yet protect them. They worry this beautiful person will be ostracized, ridiculed, for something that is clearly to them, and within them, very real.
The learning required is multifaceted.
Parents learn to support their children and keep them on track in what can only be termed – the real world. Because that is where we live. And they can already parent their children without external assistance, yet they deserve encouragement. We all do.
They learn to nurture this perceptive capacity through understanding and awareness themselves. Through learning with their children.
I have encouraged that 6th sense in my children from their first days. They are incredibly lucky because I understand the gift and how it plays out.
I encourage for the very same reason we all do. To nurture and protect. A gift of perception, a 6th sense, whether my adult or younger students, is most valuable under pressure.
Consider a pressure situation for a child. School, other adults, sports, teenagedom and early adulthood. Then consider as adults, our career, partnerships both business and personal, and the questions that are raised by our choice of path, every day.
Consider for a moment if your precious jewel, your beautiful child, had an early warning sign that something or someone was not right – for them.
If these perceptive kiddies can learn to understand, discern and hone this ‘gift’, then they can be sure of their inner voice when we as parents are not there for guidance. When the voice of reason meets an evil cousin, peer pressure.
And that is the key. They learn to understand and discern. They can’t hone what they don’t understand. Parents can’t support what they don’t understand.
They learn to discern the sensations and feelings that are ‘them’ in perfect harmony, and with confidence, go forward to make the most of opportunities.
In the end there is only a life well lived, choices well made, and an inner person to be proud of. No noise, no fanfare, no medals. There is no tangible rulebook, no concrete ‘result’. It, life, is ongoing.
Crossed fingers from parents will always be there, however to nurture a perceptive ability adds a dimension to a life toolkit, that may be a definer in a moment of pressure, or pleasure, that speaks to the human being we always wanted them to become.
PS : We don’t all end up fluffy flower children, we are doctors, lawyers and accountants…