One of the hardest things to deal with when you have a parting of the ways
Will be your own mind.
The conscious mind is built with the directive to help you make sense of things
It is part of our ability to remain…well….sane.
Yet it does so from your experiences and your perception at that time.
So if you have had a few people shaft you – then thats part of the perspective
If you have made decisions that you aren’t proud of, yup – perspective.
You will decide against that (well hopefully)
Whether a love or any friendship goes south, you probably shared some of your darkest moments
Shared some of your deepest secrets
And then all of a sudden you are not connected anymore
You can not sit in fear. It will not serve you.
Yet… you worry.
Add to that the fact you have already heard the talk get back to you – or think you have
Our conscious minds make stories fit.
However nothing is as destructive as your mind chatter.
Whats said is said
Whats done is done
If they share your details – they will
If they use it to make others like you less
Those people aren’t for you anyway.
If you are faced with legal papers that tell some fanciful version of the truth – deal with it THEN – when you receive them – IF you receive them that is….
Because nothing will be anywhere near as destructive as you worrying about it.
The moment you start to dwell – STOP
There is a reason you move one
Whether it is your choice or not.
Maybe you have grown. Maybe others have.
Lots of maybe’s yet the thing – the ONLY to spend your mindful moments on
How do you feel
Who are you. Now. In the present.
A narcissist, a gaslighter, will have you asking yourself loads of questions
Questioning yourself. Your sanity.
And steal time away from you if you let them.
And it is truly YOU who let them.
I liken it to unpicking the ties that bind.
Many years ago these people and these behaviors were hidden yet now they are there in the open for all to see
Yet your mind – where you question…is not.
Allow it to be a safe space – for YOU.
Sure you told them your deep secrets.
You shared tears and joys, your inner thoughts and feelings.
In fact its probably in writing in triplicate
Whats done is done.
Whats said is said
If its shared then its shared.
You however are still amazing
Everyone has a chink in their armour
Everyone has skeletons they wish they didn’t have
Don’t allow anyone to steal your happiness
Don’t allow anyone to – including yourself.
You are amazing.
Move forward, stop worrying, embrace who you are and know you are MAGICAL