Some of us are determined to do everything that we are capable of.
Now I want you to read that line carefully.
The word Capable is the KEY
We are incredibly capable
All of us in our own way.
And that can be a double edged sword…in SO many ways.
I am gifted in being incredibly capable
Thats not me being full of myself
Thats me realising I have been gifted with great faculties both physical and mental, and I can pretty much turn my hand to anything – and have.
It comes from an abundance mindset, and encouragement
As I have said many many times……
I have the capabilities to do almost any job – doesn’t mean I should.
That is NOT a judgement – that is why I say – I am lucky – gifted – that I see myself as capable, and see other choices available where others may not.
What I am suggesting is this.
Many of us have to get to what we feel is rock bottom.
We keep on going and keep on going – because we can.
We physically or mentally – or both – keep going because we are capable of doing so.
You choose whether to wait for armageddon or jump off the merry go round now.
So comes the sting into the tail.
Many of us (me included) know or have known that martyr in us
We do it all – because we can.
We don’t always have to.
I was told years ago that I needed to let others help me.
I was told I would learn a great deal about myself if I did.
And so I did.
I decided to accept assistance
And it was easy to do
Not abdicating my responsibility
And the offers were abundant.
As abundant as the offers I always made
Coming with the same ‘no strings attached’.
It was wonderful. Is wonderful.
I ‘let’ others help me – just as I had always been the one to say ‘I will do it – I will help you’.
And others always accepted my help.
(I think in hindsight it is also because I sounded so confident when I offered it
I knew I would do my best, and that is all people really ask for right ?)
So I, in reality, returned the compliment.
And this is what I learned… also about myself.
If you let people help you, you see the joy they gain from a job well done.
If you let people show their capabilities, you will find they do things differently to you
And it looks different.
And its capable too.
It enables them the feeling of capability that I loved too.
It didn’t say ‘I can’t do something’ by letting others do something I can do myself.
(Now THATS a big one if you like to prove yourself a lot….)
Its Sharing the love.
The other thing it did
Was make me see how easy it is to judge others.
When we do everything ourselves, it is easy to point the finger at those who are not doing things
It is easy to assume laziness
It is easy to assume lots of things
It is easy to assume someone is taking advantage – when they are actually accepting your help
It is easy to make judgement calls
Are you really trying to point out how capable you are by doing..when others are not doing ?
Now thats another Big question….
Sometimes…we get into our own heads
Up our own kybers…
And behave like they accepted our help because, well, they can’t do it as well as we can
Figure they maybe accepted our help because they KNOW we could do a better job then they do
It is almost impossible to see balance.
And easy to get sucked into.
You can’t see balance if you are always doing for others and not letting them do for you.
If you do not let others help you
It is easy to get caught up in the cleverness of you
Because you are being clever, capable, and helping everyone else with your cleverness
There is no doubting your capability
The fact is – there probably never was.
So I learned
If you don’t let others help you
You will likely be judgemental and clever – all on your own.
No balance in that
No joy in that
No fun in that
No laughter in that
No love in that.